Trust in negotiations may develop naturally over time, but negotiators rarely have the luxury of waiting for trust to emerge on its own. As a result, it can feel safest to structure cautious deals with few tradeoffs, limited concessions, and minimal information sharing. Yet playing it safe often means leaving significant value on the table. For this reason, building trust in negotiations—often quickly—is a critical managerial skill.
The first step in fostering trust in negotiations is to demonstrate trustworthiness. Regardless of context or industry, negotiators can apply the six strategies below to shape how others perceive their reliability, competence, and intentions at the bargaining table.
1. Gain Trust in Negotiations by Speaking Their Language
Several years ago, an airline seeking to modernize its ticketing system invited consulting firms to bid on the project. At the kickoff meeting, airline executives described the limitations of their existing system and outlined their needs. When discussion opened up, representatives from consulting firm X—new to the airline industry—noticed frequent references to “lifts.” Confused, they asked for clarification.
The room fell silent. Airline paper tickets, everyone knew, were called lifts. By revealing their unfamiliarity with this basic industry term, firm X committed a serious misstep. One innocent question—and the firm was suddenly out of contention.
Speaking the other party’s language goes far beyond mastering technical jargon. It also involves understanding cultural references, industry norms, and the subtleties behind how words are used. When you invest time in learning the other side’s history, culture, and perspective, you signal commitment to both the negotiation and the relationship—an essential foundation for trust. This fluency also reassures others that you’re capable of following through on any agreement reached.
Of course, mistakes happen. Early preparation can soften their impact. At the outset of negotiations, acknowledge that you’ve worked to understand the other party’s perspective, while also recognizing that learning will continue as discussions unfold. Express the hope that inevitable misunderstandings will be treated as part of a shared learning process rather than as evidence of bad faith.
2. Gain Trust in Negotiations by Managing Your Reputation
In negotiation, your reputation often arrives before you do. A poor reputation can derail talks before they begin, while a strong one can help bridge impasse. Savvy negotiators treat reputation not as background noise, but as a strategic asset.
You can strengthen your reputation by offering references from mutually trusted third parties who can attest to your integrity and competence. In some cases, a third party may communicate with the other side in advance—or even serve as an intermediary during negotiations. You can also point to evidence of past success, such as trade publications, case studies, or long-standing partnerships that demonstrate your reliability.
3. Gain Trust in Negotiations by Making Dependence a Factor
The more dependent people are on one another, the more likely they are to extend trust. At its extreme, this dynamic appears in Stockholm syndrome, where hostages come to trust their captors more than outside negotiators. While negotiation contexts are far less dramatic, the underlying psychology is similar: people cope with dependence by believing in the trustworthiness of those they rely on.
In negotiation, trust increases when both parties recognize that they need one another to achieve their goals and that alternatives are limited or costly. You can activate this trust-building mechanism by highlighting the unique value you bring to the table and by clarifying what both sides stand to lose if talks collapse. This approach can be especially powerful when a stalemate looms and walking away would be painful for everyone involved.
4. Gain Trust in Negotiations by Making Unilateral Concessions
Negotiations between strangers or adversaries tend to be highly calculative, with each side closely tracking gains and losses. By contrast, negotiations rooted in long-term relationships are less transactional. A carefully designed unilateral concession can help bridge that gap.
A true unilateral concession requires no immediate reciprocation. It should impose minimal cost or risk on the giver while delivering meaningful value to the recipient. Beyond signaling goodwill, such concessions demonstrate competence by showing that you understand what the other side values. When done thoughtfully, unilateral concessions can quickly transform the tone of a negotiation.
5. Gain Trust in Negotiations by Labeling Your Concessions
Actions may speak louder than words—but in negotiation, actions are often ambiguous. Concessions only build trust if the other party recognizes them as such. Because negotiators are often motivated to downplay the other side’s contributions, concessions can go unnoticed, undermining goodwill and escalating tension.
Richard E. Walton and Robert B. McKersie illustrate this risk in A Behavioral Theory of Labor Negotiations (1991). After enduring a series of grueling contract talks, a manufacturer opened the next round with a take-it-or-leave-it offer—and made it unusually generous. Instead of reacting positively, the union requested a caucus.
The manufacturer was stunned. But the union, accustomed to drawn-out bargaining, inferred that if the opening offer was so strong, further concessions must be forthcoming. The mismatch in expectations ultimately contributed to a strike.
The lesson is clear: don’t assume your actions will speak for themselves. When you make a meaningful concession, explain what you’ve given up and why it matters. Doing so clarifies intent, encourages reciprocity, and strengthens mutual trust.
6. Gain Trust in Negotiations by Explaining Your Demands
When negotiating with someone new, expect skepticism. If you push for a better deal, the other party may assume you’re greedy, unfair, or indifferent to their concerns. Often, however, firm positions reflect external constraints—budget limits, organizational policies, or stakeholder expectations.
Psychological research shows that people interpret their own behavior generously while judging others more harshly, particularly in conflict. For this reason, explaining the rationale behind your demands is essential for maintaining trust.
An opening offer that appears extreme can erode trust. An offer that is clearly explained and justified, however, is far more likely to preserve—and even enhance—it.
Consider an author negotiating with a literary agent. When the agent mentions that her commission is higher for international deals, the author bristles. It sounds arbitrary—until the agent explains that international commissions must be split with foreign agents, leaving her with a lower net percentage. The explanation doesn’t change the author’s earnings, but it reshapes his perception. Trust grows.
Maximizing Joint Gain
Believing that the other party is both competent and principled enables negotiators to take the calculated risks required to create and implement strong agreements. When profit, security, or long-term cooperation depend on another party’s actions, trust in negotiations becomes indispensable.
As these strategies show, trust need not be left to chance. Negotiators can actively build the credibility and confidence necessary for agreements that maximize joint gain—and endure long after the deal is signed.
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Adapted from an article by Deepak Malhotra for the Negotiation newsletter.