Dealing with Difficult People: Lies, Lies, and More Lies

Beware these deceptive tactics in negotiations dealing with difficult people

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Dealing with Difficult People: Lies, Lies, and More Lies

Are you facing a negotiator you don’t think you can trust? Here are five common types of deception you may come across when dealing with difficult people in a negotiation situation, according to Wharton School professor Richard Shell.


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Common Lies in Negotiation

1. Lies about bottom lines and alternatives.

A counterpart’s statements about just how low (or high) she’ll go with her offers should be taken with a grain of salt, writes Shell. Avoid being taken advantage of by researching the other side’s claims and reputation, and by exploring your alternatives to the current deal.

2. “Too good to be true” offers.

Beware an offer that’s much better than you expected, especially from a counterpart you don’t know well. After you commit to a lowball price, the other party might try to tack on less-desirable deal terms. One tip-off that you could be getting a raw deal, according to Shell, are questions that are hypothetically phrased, such as “Would you buy this today for $X?” If an offer is framed in the abstract, ask for more concrete wording—such as, “I am offering this to you today for $X”—and insist on seeing the fine print.

3. Escalation of commitment.

You may find you’ve made a significant investment, such as considerable time or an up-front payment, before you’ve agreed on a deal. The other party may be aware that you (like most people) will be less willing to walk away and admit defeat after sinking resources into the negotiation. When faced with such a bargaining strategy, remember that such “sunk costs” are gone forever—and that there’s no shame in walking away from a shady deal.

4. Lack of reciprocity.

According to the widely accepted norm of reciprocity, each concession in a negotiation should be rewarded with a roughly equal concession from the other side. If a dealmaking counterpart fails to match your concessions or only pays lip service to the process of exchanging offers and commitments, don’t negotiate any further; confront him about it, and walk away if he won’t cooperate.

5. Last-minute nibbling.

Have you ever had a counterpart make a modest request just before you’re about to ink the deal? By preying on your desire to wrap up a hard-won negotiation quickly, the “nibbler” may succeed in gobbling up several more percentage points of value, cautions Shell. His advice: Shun the request unless the nibbler agrees to a matching concession.

Adapted from “Lies, Lies, and More Lies,” first published in the August 2010 issue of Negotiation Briefings.

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First published in 2014.

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One Response to “Dealing with Difficult People: Lies, Lies, and More Lies”

  • Hi,

    this is really good written article. I have to say that the point number 2 is very true. Most of the deals I am offered are too good to be true. For example I went to see a house a few days ago and the agent was telling me how fast these flats are being sold and behind him was standing the tenant (she has lived there for 4 years now) and she was shaking her head saing NO. So something we just need to be more aware of the other people and the offers. We need to really do our research towards what we really need and what we can afford.

    I am doing some of my own articles on negotiation and I was thinking maybe you could take a look at it and comment because I want to here your professional opinion on some stuff. Thank you

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