Real College The Essential Guide to Student Life

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A book of communication, difficult conversations, negotiation and life advice for college students

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Written by Difficult Conversations co-author Douglas Stone and Harvard Law School student Elizabeth Tippett, Real College is a book of communication, difficult conversations, negotiation and life advice for college students. The wide-ranging advice in Real College will help students to:

  • Identify common assumptions that can lead to conflicts with roommates
  • Engage with professors inside and outside the classroom
  • Manage procrastination and perfectionism
  • Have productive conversations about issues like race, gender, and sexual orientation
  • Talk with parents about expectations and majors
  • Encourage a friend struggling with mental health issues to seek help

 

The book follows four fictional students via their e-mail correspondence. Through this device, Stone and Tippett analyze common mistakes that students make and offer guidance on how best to manage the challenging transition to college life.

 

“Remarkably well written, truly reader friendly, and full of good ideas. As both a parent and a professor, I highly recommend this book.”Richard Light, author of Making the Most of College, Walter H. Gale Professor of Education, Harvard University

“Masterfully presents critical information on key topics in a format that is engaging and entertaining. It should be on the bookself of every incoming college freshman – and their parents. ” – Julie C. Lythcott-Haims, Dean of Freshmen, Stanford University

“Extremely funny, astonishingly helpful. Every college student and college-bound high school senior should read it.” – Henry C. Moses, Headmaster, Trinity School and former Dean of Freshman, Harvard College

“Stone and Tippett address serious, substantive, and challenging issues with deep psychological wisdom. This book is superb “must” reading for any student on the brink of college life and any parent seeking an understanding of what college holds in store for their maturing daughters and sons.” – Charles Ducey, Ph.D., Director, Bureau of Study Counsel, Harvard University

“If you read and use this book, your college journey will be much happier and more productive. Every student affairs office should recommend it.”Loren Pope, author of Colleges that Change Lives and Looking Beyond the Ivy League

See also Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, and Sheila Heen, Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most (New York: Viking/Penguin, 1999).

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If you select the hard copy option, you will receive paper copies of this role simulation via the shipping method you select.

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If you wish to order multiple copies of a role simulation for use in a course or workshop, simply enter the total number of participants in the box next to “Participant Copies.” There is no need to calculate how many of each role is required; the Teaching Negotiation Resource Center will calculate the appropriate numbers of each role to provide, based on the total number of participants. For example, if you wish to order a 2-party role simulation for use with a class of 30 students, you would enter “30” in the box next to “Participant Copies.” You then would receive 15 copies of one role and 15 copies of the other role, for use with your 30 participants. As another example, if you ordered 30 participant copies of a 6-party role simulation, you would receive 5 copies of each role.

In the event that the number of participant copies you order is not evenly divisible by the number of roles in the simulation, you will receive extra copies of one or more roles. Participants receiving the extra roles may partner with other participants playing the same role, thus negotiating as a team. So, for instance, if you ordered 31 copies of a 2-party role simulation, you would receive 15 copies of the first role and 16 copies of the second role. One of the participants playing the second role would partner with another participant playing that same role, and the two would negotiate as a team.