Third Side (The): Why We Fight and How We Can Stop

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Also published as Getting to Peace: Transforming Conflict at Home, at Work, and in the World (New York: Viking, 1999) (hardcover)

Conflict rages everywhere: at home, at work, in schools, and on the world stage. William Ury presents a new approach for dealing with human conflict based on two decades of research and new anthropological evidence. While we generally conceive of disputes as having two antagonistic parties, there is, in almost every instance, a “third side” — the community, business, family, or other social context within which the conflict unfolds. Using real-life examples from the family, the schoolroom, the workplace, and international relations, Ury suggests ten practical ways to tap the power of the third side to resolve disputes, prevent disputes from becoming violent, or stop violence once it begins.


“Another masterpiece by Bill Ury. This book is insightful, encouraging, and extremely pertinent in today’s contentious world.” –Stephen R. Covey, author of The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People


“All too often, our nation and others seek to impose solutions with military attacks or punitive sanctions against innocent people. Getting to Peace shows us a better way.” –Former President Jimmy Carter


“A radically simple solution for conflicts ranging from family squabbles to international disputes.” Boston Sunday Herald


See also: Joshua N. Weiss, et al., When Spider Webs Unite: Five Case Studies of the Third Side in Action (Cambridge, MA: PON Books, 2002).

Third Side (The): Why We Fight and How We Can Stop Attributes

Author: William L. Ury
Publisher: New York: Penguin, 2000