The notion that all difficult conversations carry a common underlying structure that can be divided into three distinguishable categories or “conversations”; 1) The “What Happened?” Conversation, 2) the Feelings Conversation, 3) and the Identity Conversation. (Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton and Sheila Heen, Difficult Conversations [Viking/Penguin, 1999], 4, 7)
identity conversation
The part of a Òdifficult conversationÓ that we have with ourselves about what a problematic situation means to us. This conversation is an internal debate about who we are and how we see ourselves. (Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton and Sheila Heen, Difficult Conversations [Viking/Penguin, 1999], 8,14)
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