"How Could You Say That!"

Confidential Instructions for Cory

You are Cory, a senior in high school. For the past several winters you've worked at a part time job as a salesperson at a clothing store at the mall. You've worked extremely hard, and the people you work for regard you highly. You've also worked quite hard in school and generally get good grades.

But although things have been going smoothly at school and at work, your social life hasn't always been as good as you'd like it to be. You are jealous of your younger brother/sister Terry who just seems to be naturally popular. You always feel awkward and self-conscious around other people, and have the feeling that you'll say something stupid and that people just won't end up liking you that much. Terry is involved in talent shows and dances and seems to be the center of attention in that circle of people. Terry doesn't make much effort to spend any time with you, and you sort of wish Terry looked up to you more.

A few days ago, Terry asked to talk to you about becoming a salesperson. You were actually flattered that Terry wanted advice from you and you wanted to be helpful. You told Terry that it was a little late in the year to be looking for a job, but that there were probably still some jobs left. You also told Terry about the kinds of things they look for when they interview you. You said they want people who will work hard and who are responsible about things like getting to work on time. You couldn't believe Terry's reaction. Terry started yelling about not wanting any of your stupid advice. You felt really hurt by this because it just made you feel like you can't do anything right when it comes to dealing with people. Terry knows how much you want to be looked up to, but Terry always ends up making you feel like a loser.

Even though you felt really hurt, you still wanted to help Terry get a job. You called at least five different stores and told them how great Terry was, but none had openings. Since the fight, Terry has refused to talk to you. The two of you have been communicating through your mother. You told your mother that you recommended Terry and assumed you would get a thank you and an apology from Terry. You were furious when your mother told you that Terry still didn't want to talk to you. You feel like you're really trying to be a good older brother/sister but that nothing ever helps.

Recently, you and Terry promised your neighbors you would help them move some pieces of furniture from their apartment. They are willing to pay you well for your help, but they need both of you. Although you really need the money, you aren't sure you want to do it because you are still furious with Terry. You have agreed to talk this over with Terry to try to straighten things out, though you're not sure anything will come of it. You've decided you'll only agree to do the job if Terry apologizes and you feel satisfied with Terry's explanation for why certain things were said.