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Some are afraid of making apologies because either their ego can't tolerate the idea of a moment of contrition or because they fear the consequences of admitting wrongdoing. However, what such people fail to realize is the power that comes with an apology, both for a specific moment with the other party and for personally, for themselves. It has been said by someone smarter than me that only the strong can apologize, that it is not a sign of weakness but instead strength. When you are strong and humble both, when you show humanity with courage, you maintain or gain respect and often, admiration. That sells in both negotiation and your personal life. That approach creates attraction. So not wanting to apologize is self destructive as much as it is destructive. The above-mentioned components of an apology are valuable guidelines and utilizing most or all of them each time we aggrieve others will develop our character, treat fellow human beings in a way that reflects well on us and allow us to achieve great heights.